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29 February 2012
Antropology on Mind, like Experimental Philosophy, are necessary steps in the on the road of knowledge. So I can't but be enthusiastic.
As regards the first sexual intercourse, I can't but agree on the average male experience, as related in the text. However, in my experience with adolescents, I have found often girls who behaved in the same way, having their first "complete" for fear of being late. Of course, this didn't allow the girls the feeling of happiness, but only of normality. I think that a research on the specific italian reality could be interesting.
2 November 2011
The first sexual encounter: How adolescents deal with sexuality ..
There are many reasons that lead a teenager to seek sexual relations and it is important to know what they say in this regard theresearch conducted.
One of the early research is that of G. Neubauer, 1990 (Jugend und sexualität, Edition Stuttgart, Enke), conducted on a sample of German students aged between 14 and 18 years revealed three reasons: a) curiosity, because teens want to know what is actually the sex, b), the mutual affection, love it when you want to belong completely to another person (and this happens even in old age adult); c), the attainment of the status of adult.
Knowing the extent to which the individual will intervene in favor or not of one of these three reasons is not easy, and I believe that today only a minimum proportion of adolescents experience their sexual initiation involuntarily.
Another interesting aspect is related to the way in which sexuality is experienced and considered according to genres. Males are mainly driven by physical and biological reasons, while for girls continues to be important to the concept of love and emotional attachment to the partner.
Most of the girls claims to have had their first sexual intercourse with a partner with whom they had a good relationship for some time, while only a minority of them with people known only recently. And in half of these cases there was a certain insistence on the part of the male desire to "go all the way", creating a certain pressure of anxiety. Also many girls , following the first disappointing experience, refrain by further reports sometimes for a long period.
For males, things are different. They describe the experience as it was a mere episode in their lives occurred without much emotional involvement, just to prove to themselves and others to be "normal males". At the same time, however, this lack of emotional involvement that is more emotionally disturbs the boys, causing a sense of dissatisfaction evident and sometimes very annoying.
According to research by 1990, M.P. McCabe and J.K. Collins (Dating, Relating and Sex, Horowitz-Grahame, Sydney), also emotional reactions to the first report are different between the two genders: men feel more satisfied than females considering the experience positive, while 40% of the girls have negative feelings, shame, and have a fear of pregnancy.
Of particular interest is the research of 1998 K. Mitchell and K. Wellings (First sexual that occurred: Anticipation and communication.
Interviews with young people in England,as reported in the Journal of Adolescence, 21, pages. 717-726), point to the presence of at least four different profiles on the basis of sexual initiation ' age:
a) for younger adolescents totally inexperienced the first relationship is unexpected and constitutes a kind of shock, characterized by long silences, embarrassment and confusion;
b), for other the relationship is expected in part because they are aware that in certain circumstances it may happen;
c), sexual intercourse is expected but not desired, this happens when we are in presence of ambivalent messages from both the male and the female, resulting in a feeling of regret when the relationship occurred;
d) Finally, the 17 years or older adolescents, who have planned together the report, consider it an improvement in quality of a relationship that is existing for a long time.
The most interesting aspect, however, that emerges from the latest research about the conditions under which sexual intercourse has reason to occur. B. Zani, L. Altieri, and F. Signani (1992, Young Love. A research on adolescents in Ferrara, CDS Editions, Ferrara) find that for about one third of the young examined you can not set rules in advance where another one third instead identifies in "affective conditions" the occurrence of sexual intercourse.
Moreover, the exercise of their sexuality is not a prerequisite of marriage and unfortunately follows a sort of "double-track interpretation", because a further third of the sample, in the men's section, believes they can have sex at any time, because there is not one more suitable time than another, while females consider it necessary that the report with the male has been standing for a long time, before reaching this moment.
And are the same girls the most convinced supporters of this position.
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